Divorce isn’t easy, but studies reveal that men seem to have a much harder time coping with the aftermath of divorce than women do. If you’re a man who is approaching a divorce, here’s what you should know about taking care of your physical and mental health in the future.
Why is divorce harder on men?
There’s no clear answer. Some researchers point to studies that show that 66% of men consider their wives to be their primary source of social support. Left to their own devices, they’re more likely to end up isolated — and isolation can be toxic to your health. Men who don’t have good social support are 82% more likely to die from heart disease than those who aren’t.
Divorced men are also more likely to suffer from depression associated with the changes in their family life. This can wind up being life-threatening. Men commit suicide nine times more often after a divorce than women do.
There’s also a problem with expectations of life following divorce failing to live up to the hype. People often picture divorced men as footloose and fancy-free, but the reality is that many feel set adrift without daily contact with their children and spouses. Others struggle under the massive financial burdens associated with divorce and support.
How do you keep your equilibrium while getting divorced?
First, don’t go into the process with expectations for yourself that you may not meet. You aren’t obligated to be happy about your situation. Give yourself permission to grieve the changes and losses in your life before you try to move forward.
Second, start building a new social support network. Reach out to family and friends you haven’t seen in a while, pick a hobby that puts you in contact with other people and consider going to therapy.
If you’re ready to get a divorce, find out more about your legal options. Experienced legal assistance can ease the process and make it possible to bounce back faster.