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Bad habits for the newly divorced

On Behalf of | Nov 19, 2021 | Divorce

Divorce can have a seismic impact on peoples’ lives. Spouses and parents often go through a period of adjustment as they navigate parenting plans, support two households, and live independently. Because they no longer live under the same roof, parents will need to exercise extra effort to communicate with the coparent on issues ranging from picking a child up from school or determining where they should go to high school. It’s all part of the partnership of smoothly running a family.

Avoid these habits

Some bad habits arise from difficulty adjusting to a new reality, while others may carry over from a dysfunctional marriage. Some common examples include:

  • Going negative: Regardless of how the marriage ended, parents should resist the temptation to speak disparagingly about their coparent or ex. Sharing unflattering details can elicit sympathy from friends, but it can leave children feeling alienated or defensive.
  • Using the children to communicate: Some may not want to talk to their ex, but good coparenting has a foundation in clear communication. Children are unreliable and often find it stressful to act as an intermediary.
  • Not setting expectations: Parents must be patient with how kids process these changes, but they also need to set guidelines on expectations to provide stability.
  • Not following the plan: It can be hard to adjust to a parenting plan, but a lot of time and effort was spent to create a plan that prioritizes the children while addressing the needs of the parents. Changes are inevitable but stick with it until the coparents mutually agree that it does not work.
  • Not detaching: Some may dream of reconciliation, but it is typically best to focus on the kids and not look to each other for emotional support. There was a reason why the marriage did not work.

Smart divorce agreements can help

Divorce is more than dividing assets and determining custody. It involves a workable parenting plan, sets the tone for a constructive coparenting partnership, and provides helpful contingencies for foreseeable issues in the future. Knowledgeable attorneys can help negotiate a fair and equitable arrangement that is legally binding. As the family’s needs change, they can help address the matter by drafting a modification.

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