It doesn’t matter how you got to this point — you’re there and you’re getting divorced. Now, you have to find a way to reinvent your life and move forward.
Where do you start? Here are some practical tips that you can use:
1. Remember what’s most important to you
For some people, the property they have to split with their spouse is most important. For others, it’s their children. Some just want to be free to start over.
Whatever your goals, write them down and discuss them with your divorce attorney at the outset. That way, you can maintain a clearer sense of what’s really important to you when there’s a temptation to get off track.
2. Don’t expect yourself to be without negative feelings
Too much positivity can be as toxic to your mental state as too much negativity. Accept that it may take some time to get past the hurt and anger you may be feeling, and be gentle with yourself if you can’t do it right away.
This doesn’t give you license to be uncivil to your spouse during your divorce. It does, however, give you the right to immerse yourself in your feelings so that you can process everything before moving on.
3. Listen to the important advisors in your life
Like many modern people, you may rely on professionals to help you through difficult situations. A therapist can help you establish new boundaries with your ex-spouse, and a financial advisor can help you work through difficult decisions (like whether to accept a lump-sum alimony payment or sell the house).
Your attorney is also someone that you should be able to rely on during your divorce for experienced information and advice. For more information on how we may be able to help you, please continue to explore our site or contact us directly.