By now you are probably familiar with the term “gray divorce,” which generally refers to a divorce by couples over the age of 50.
Gray divorce is becoming more common. In fact, since 1990 the divorce rate has doubled for United States residents over the age of 55 and tripled for those over the age of 65.
While some gray divorces happen for the same reasons as divorces between younger couples, such as abuse, cheating or drug addiction, there are some reasons that are unique to gray divorces.
Financial disputes
Financial disagreements are a major reason for gray divorces. Older couples typically have more money between them simply due to their age and many years of working.
The more money there is, the more there can be to fight about. Disputes over what to do with retirement funds or whether to financially help children or other family members can strain a marriage.
Empty nest syndrome is another common reason for gray divorces. Raising children usually means a busy and hectic schedule. With the children gone, couples find themselves with only each other around and might realize they no longer connect with each other or have anything in common.
Wanting a change
Many gray divorces happen simply because one or both spouses want a different life. Divorce is more accepted today than it was in the past.
When you got married, you might have had the idea that marriage was for life, even if you later discovered you were unhappy. Realizing that attitudes toward marriage have changed may be what you need to move forward with divorce.
A different life can also mean a change from the repetitive daily routines. Older couples typically settle into routines the longer they are together, no longer trying new activities or traveling to new places.
Whatever the reason for wanting a gray divorce, if you believe it is the best choice for you, there are ways to make it happen.